Natural Help for Allergies and Asthma

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Does your child or a child that you know suffer from asthma or allergies? Asthma attacks are triggered by things such as exercise, temperature changes and also environmental irritants. While there are some things you can’t control, other things you can. As a healthcare professional and an asthma sufferer myself (along with my kids), I try to avoid certain triggers to keep bad days at bay. Here are a few ways to help you and your family stay healthy at home.

1. Natural air freshener

Because a lot of us like to spray our homes with popular air fresheners that contain multiple chemicals, this can be quite irritating. So try this alternative:
All you need is an empty spray bottle, one cup of water, 2 tablespoons of vodka, and about 20 drops of an essential oil. (These are generally small 15mL bottles of potent but natural fragrances found in health food stores)

2. Perfume

I LOVE designer fragrances and parfum. At times, I still spray a little when I’m not around the kids and I want to feel “fancy”. If you want to try something a little different, try natural perfumes. These types of fragrances are making their way into mainstream popularity now. A lot of them are free of phthalates (which have been scientifically proven to cause health problems) and made with natural grain alcohol. A plus is that natural and essential oils work with your own body chemistry to become YOUR signature scent.

3. Cleaning your home

More and more, I am beginning to use environmentally-friendly cleaning products. This is for several reasons. I want my kids safe when they do their chores and and its a lot less irritating. I have even made several of my own cleaning solutions, thanks to Pinterest. I like to call it The Homemade Miracle Cleaner. Why? Because it works on virtually all stains and a great surface cleaner. We all know that Kids = Stains. So, here’s the 2 ingredient recipe for the natural cleaner: To a spray bottle, add 1 part Dawn dishwashing liquid (original blue kind) to 2 parts hydrogen peroxide.

4. Freshening up your home

Some of you may actually use the popular brands of household odor eliminators, like Febreze on your clothes, rugs and upholstery. Well, here’s a more natural alternative for refreshing your home. In a spray bottle, simply add 1/8 cup of fabric softener, 2 tablespoons Baking Soda, hot tap water. Voila!

Asthma can be triggered and exacerbated by exposure to many environmental factors. The American Academy of Pediatrics states: “Avoiding environmental allergens and irritants is one of the primary goals of good asthma management”. While I make no claims that these suggestions will provide the same results or evoke similar excitement, these have proven helpful for me and my family and hopefully the same for you! Not only are we striving to live healthier, we are “being green” in the process. Every little bit counts! Here’s to healthy living and a breath of fresh air for you and your family!

What do you do in your home to keep allergies and asthma under control?

Cherish Your Children Each and Everyday

As I looked through some of the photos from our recent Spring Break vacation, I began to hear the proverbial thousands upon thousands of words that came from them. This one particularly echoed the word, “Cherish.”

Each of my children are growing at lightning speed and I wish at times the hands of the clock would sometimes just sloooowwww dooowwwnnnn…I read a poem that is so fitting when I’m feeling sentimental. Yes, the house can sometimes be a mess. Yes, I want to pull my hair out at times, but I wouldn’t trade these gifts from God for anything the world has to offer!

I hope you enjoy this sweet poem as much as I did. If you have children, I’m sure you will.

children at the beach, siblings, african american siblings

Handprints on the Wall
by
Anonymous

One day as I was picking
the toys up off the floor,
I noticed a small hand print
on the wall beside the door.

I knew that it was something
that I’d seen most every day,
but this time when I saw it there
I wanted it to stay.

Then tears welled up inside my eyes,
I knew it wouldn’t last
for every mother knows
her children grow up way too fast.

Just then I put my chores aside
and held my children tight.
I sang to them sweet lullabies
and rocked into the night.

Sometimes we take for granted,
all those things that seem so small.
Like one of God’s great treasures…
A small hand print on the wall.

Childhood Obesity – An Avoidable Epidemic

“The physical and emotional health of an entire generation and the economic health and security of our nation is at stake.”
~First Lady Michelle Obama (Let’s Move Campaign)

Obesity in Children

If it were medically feasible, would you consider allowing your 10 or 12 year old to go under the knife for gastric bypass? This is a decision that as a parent, most of us would probably answer, “No.” However, there are a lot of overweight/obese children and adolescents that despite known risks, actually want this procedure, because their life would be so much easier. Less bullying, less stress, and a better life…or so they imagine. For some, this is simply hypothetical. For others, this is a reality.

What’s the deal?

Childhood obesity has more than doubled in children and tripled in adolescents in the past 30 years. What are we doing as a society that has allowed our children to succumb to such a growing epidemic? During a keynote address recently, First Lady Michelle Obama had a message for parents with questionable eating and exercise habits:

“We as parents are our children’s first and best role models, and this is particularly true when it comes to their health,” she said, pointing to research that kids with one obese parent are more than twice as likely to become obese as adults. “We can’t lie around on the couch eating French fries and candy bars, and expect our kids to eat carrots and run around the block. But too often, that’s exactly what we’re doing.”
We always say that the children are our future. Let’s help them MAKE it to the future. There are several harmful long term effects that could be potentially fatal, if childhood obesity is not curbed. The fact is, children and adolescents who are obese are likely to be obese as adults, and are therefore more at risk for adult health problems such as heart disease, type 2 diabetes, stroke, several types of cancer, and osteoarthritis.

How did we get here?

Well, as mentioned earlier, thirty years ago, most people led lives that kept them at a healthy weight. Kids walked to and from school everyday, ran around at recess, participated in gym class, and played for hours after school before dinner. We prepared home-cooked meals and served reasonable portion sizes and there was always a vegetable on the plate. Eating fast food was rare and occasional treat.

Today, some of our children live and experiences a totally different lifestyle. Walks to and from school have been replaced by car and bus rides. Gym class and after-school sports have been cut. A lot of times, their afternoons are now spent watching TV, playing video games, and on the Internet. Nowadays, parents are busier than ever and home-cooked meals may be far and far between.

As a society, it seems that we have become habitual snackers. Snacking between meals is very commonplace. Whereas thirty years ago, kids ate just one snack a day, now they are trending toward three snacks, resulting in an additional 200 calories a day — and one in five school-age children has up to six snacks a day. Lastly, our food and beverage portions have grown tremendously. They are now two to five times bigger than they were in years past. The average sugar-sweetened beverage was 13.6 ounces compared to today. A lot of kids think nothing of drinking an entire 20 ounces of sugar-sweetened beverages at one time.

What can we do?

There are a lot of online resources that give us options when our goal is guiding our kids (and family, period) towards a healthier lifestyle. Here are just a few:

1. Lead by example. Let your kids see YOU munching on raw fruits and veggies and drinking water instead of soda.

2. Reward with attention, not food. Let’s not reward our children with sweets. It leads them to believe that those foods are “better” than nutritious foods.

3. Make physical activity fun for the whole family. When the weather permits, go for walks or jogs and just have fun together.

4. Take your kids grocery shopping with you (I know, I know…sometimes this can be a headache.). This is a great opportunity to discuss food and nutrition and allow your children to make healthy choices.

We are our children’s biggest influence. Let’s help them develop good healthy eating habits and be proactive with their good food choices versus trying to change some bad habits that could potentially cost them the quality of their lives!

Sources:
Center for Disease Control www.cdc.gov
Let’s Move www.letsmove.gov
www.healthykidshealthyfuture.org
Photo credit: agla4all.tumblr.com

6 Successful Secrets to Ending Sibling Rivalry

6 Successful Secrets to Ending Sibling Rivalry

photo credit: www.tiffanyraecoaching.com

As long as there are siblings, there will be some type of rivalry. Children are people too, and will not always agree. They fight over toys, as well as your love and attention and will always find a way to annoy each other, but as parents we have to make sure that the banter is harmless and in no way reflects any type of verbal abuse. While the bickering is harmless, it’s just enough to work any parents’ nerves. While, I claim to be no expert, here are few things that seem to work in our home.

1. Take advantage of the age differences.

If the older sibling has a significant age advantage over the younger, make sure that they are allowed to “feel older” and be older. Saying things like, “I need you to look out for your little sister.” Or to the younger, “Be a good listener to your older brother. It really helps me out.” Making these defining statements and re-iterations help them with their roles, because they know what is expected.

2. Teamwork is vital.

When is this NOT the case? Teamwork is so important, that’s with any family matter. When it comes to the battling siblings, practice sometimes makes perfect. Create scenarios and situations that force them to work together or else the result is failure. Think of baking a cake together, or cleaning the kitchen. Give them specific instructions and delegate with clear understanding that teamwork is essential. A lot of times, kids are spending way too many isolated moments on their electronics, or if they’re older, with their respective friends, and they just don’t work [well] with their brother/sister.

3. Use technology.

I was at my wit’s end one day and I decided to make my kids interview one with the iPad/iPhone. The idea behind this was actually seeing and hearing themselves, may actually help. I had them tell each other five things that their sister/brother do to make them feel loved. I ask them periodically through the week if they’ve done any of those five things for their sibling. This keeps the needs of their siblings fresh on each others’ minds. I also feel like it shows the human side of one another.

4. Treat them like individuals.

Much like secret number one, we learn early on that as parents we don’t use the “cookie cutter approach”, because not all children are the same, nor should they be treated that way. Even twins, or children close in age should be praised for their individual strengths and we should be sensitive to their weaknesses. Being open about bringing out the best in your kids, will hopefully help them to do the same with and towards each other.

5. Praise them in public.

As a piggyback to secret number four, I’ve found it very beneficial for sibling relations not to chastise them in front of one another, but to save those public moments for “praising” them. Sometimes chastising our children in front of their siblings make it easy for their siblings to feel like they can do the same. I will admit that this is a hard one, because we sometimes parent emotionally and it’s especially hard if you have a knee-jerk reaction to the inevitable craziness – which is our kids. When I am being diligent about this, I see results.

6. Prayer.

As a family, we have morning prayer. Our goal is to come together as a family, before God, and to also share our spiritual needs openly. We can see the changes in our kids, as they ask during dinner about each other’s days. It’s a beautiful thing to see your children showing compassion towards one another!

While it is a completely expected and normal occurrence for siblings to argue, making sure that they know the importance of respecting and loving one another is extremely important. When you think about it, this is just rehearsal for them learning to be team players and resolving conflict in the real world. Again, these are things that have worked for us and I’m hoping that if this issue is plaguing your lovely little lambs, that they will work for you, too!

 

Do you have any secrets to successfully keeping the sibling banter at bay?

25 Amazing Uses for Coconut Oil | Smart & Sassy Mom

Coconut oil uses
The winter air is brutal here in the Northeast. Add this hard water that I’m dealing with…just know that I am STRUGGLING!!! I have been adding coconut oil to our lotion and basically slathering all over myself and the kids before we head out each day. I’m a huge fan of the stuff, so I’m sharing some of my own uses for this wonder oil plus some uses that were actually news to me. Enjoy!

1. Moisturizer. Just apply all over your body, including neck and face.
2. Eye cream. Apply under the eyes to reduce the puffiness.
3. Hair Conditioner/Deep Treatment. I don’t have a relaxer, so i use this as a “pre-poo” AND as a leave in hair conditioner. Pre-poo, just apply generously and wear a plastic cap for at least 30 minutes. Leave-in, simply applying a little coconut oil to your ends and then running your fingers through your hair to distribute the rest! For a deeper treatment, rub in a tablespoon of coconut oil onto your dry scalp and gently work through to the ends.
4. Make up remover. Put a little on a cotton swab. It really works!
5. Lip balm. Great stuff. Smells good, too!
6. Massage Oil. Need I say more? Great friction…Mmmm…
7. Sunscreen. Take precaution when using it this way, because it provides SOME not a lot of SPF.
8. Nipple Cream for nursing moms. This works great to nourish cracked, sore, or dry nipples. Apply to a cotton ball and leave on your nipples between feedings.
9. Diaper cream. This a nice barrier cream for baby’s bottom. A very gentle, chemical free way to pamper your bundle!
10. Cradle cap. Works like a charm without spending $$ on special shampoos.
11. Body scrub. Just mix coconut oil and sugar together and rub all over! Rinse off and your skin will be super soft! You can add in essential oils if you would like a certain scent.
12. Healing. When applied on scrapes and cuts, coconut oil forms a thin, chemical layer which protects the wound from outside dust, bacteria and virus. Coconut oil speeds up the healing process of bruises by repairing damaged tissues.
13. Skin problems. It helps soothe skin problems such as psoriasis, dermatitis, and eczema.

Below are ways to use coconut oil that I found very interesting but have not yet tried for myself. (Sources vary)

14. Stress Relief. To relieve mental fatigue, simply apply coconut oil to the head in a circular, massaging motion. The natural aroma of coconuts is extremely soothing thus helping to lower your stress level.
15. Digestion. The saturated fats in coconut oil have anti-bacterial properties that help control, parasites, and fungi that cause indigestion and other digestion related problems such as irritable bowel syndrome. The fat in coconut oil also aids in the absorption of vitamins, minerals and amino acids, making you healthier all around.
16. Fitness. Since coconut oil has been proven to stimulate your metabolism, improve thyroid function, and escalate energy levels, why not?
17. Nose bleeds. Coconut oil can prevent nose bleeding that is caused by sensitivity to weather such as extreme hotness and extreme coldness. Put some on your finger and then lie down, putting pressure on your nose.
18. For breastfeeding moms, consuming 3 ½ tablespoons of coconut oil daily will enrich your milk supply. (Hmmmm…sounds interesting.)
19. Helps with weight loss & controlling cravings.
20. Helps keep blood sugar levels stable and/or helps with cravings.
21. Toenail fungus
22. Hot flashes
23. Bleeding hemorrhoids. (Makes sense if they’re not severe.)
24. “Gum-in-hair” remover
25. Leather moisturizer/cleaner

This quality oil can be costly, but we all know that your health is your wealth, so spare no costs. If you have any uses to add to the list, please do so, we’d love to hear them!

Keeping it Smart & Sassy (KISS),

The Aftermath and Mental Illness

Mental Illness, Smiling Children

It goes without mention that my heart goes out to the parents of the slain students at Sandy Hook Elementary, but I was also thinking about the poor students surviving the Sand Hook massacre last week. The media looped countless interviews of children describing the events that took place. One of the most memorable to me was the account of the description of seeing bullets “whizzing” past them. How do see or feel bullets go by, or better see someone get killed without having a lasting effect? You can’t. As a matter of fact, it has a name. It’s called post traumatic stress disorder, which can last days, months and even years.

Post traumatic stress disorder also known as PTSD can lead to anxiety and depression. Both PTSD and depression are listed as mental illnesses and these children, as well as teachers can and most likely will suffer from one or both. So, why the stigma? Does this now mean that the teachers and the students are crazy? Quite the contrary. They are suffering from an acute illness that happens them mentally versus physically. I decided to extract some very important information so that a little light may be shed on this. Instead of trying to link Asperberger’s or the shooter’s mental issues, let’s think of the survivors and be better supporters of mental health. Please feel free to share.

What is Mental Illness? Here are some facts

  • Mental illnesses are medical conditions that disrupt a person’s thinking, feeling, mood, ability to relate to others and daily functioning. Just as diabetes is a disorder of the pancreas, mental illnesses are medical conditions that often result in a diminished capacity for coping with the ordinary demands of life.
  • Serious mental illnesses include major depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), panic disorder, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and borderline personality disorder. The good news about mental illness is that recovery is possible.
  • Mental illnesses can affect persons of any age, race, religion, or income. Mental illnesses are not the result of personal weakness, lack of character or poor upbringing. Mental illnesses are treatable. Most people diagnosed with a serious mental illness can experience relief from their symptoms by actively participating in an individual treatment plan.
  • In addition to medication treatment, psychosocial treatment such as cognitive behavioral therapy, interpersonal therapy, peer support groups and other community services can also be components of a treatment plan and that assist with recovery. The availability of transportation, diet, exercise, sleep, friends and meaningful paid or volunteer activities contribute to overall health and wellness, including mental illness recovery.

Here are some important facts about mental illness and recovery:

  • Mental illnesses are serious medical illnesses. They cannot be overcome through “will power” and are not related to a person’s “character” or intelligence. Mental illness falls along a continuum of severity. Even though mental illness is widespread in the population, the main burden of illness is concentrated in a much smaller proportion-about 6 percent, or 1 in 17 Americans-who live with a serious mental illness. The National Institute of Mental Health reports that One in four adults-approximately 57.7 million Americans-experience a mental health disorder in a given year.
  • The U.S. Surgeon General reports that 10 percent of children and adolescents in the United States suffer from serious emotional and mental disorders that cause significant functional impairment in their day-to-day lives at home, in school and with peers.
  • The World Health Organization has reported that four of the 10 leading causes of disability in the US and other developed countries are mental disorders. By 2020, Major Depressive illness will be the leading cause of disability in the world for women and children.
  • Mental illness usually strike individuals in the prime of their lives, often during adolescence and young adulthood. All ages are susceptible, but the young and the old are especially vulnerable.
  • Without treatment the consequences of mental illness for the individual and society are staggering: unnecessary disability, unemployment, substance abuse, homelessness, inappropriate incarceration, suicide and wasted lives; The economic cost of untreated mental illness is more than 100 billion dollars each year in the United States.
  • The best treatments for serious mental illnesses today are highly effective; between 70 and 90 percent of individuals have significant reduction of symptoms and improved quality of life with a combination of pharmacological and psychosocial treatments and supports.
  • With appropriate effective medication and a wide range of services tailored to their needs, most people who live with serious mental illnesses can significantly reduce the impact of their illness and find a satisfying measure of achievement and independence. A key concept is to develop expertise in developing strategies to manage the illness process.
  • Early identification and treatment is of vital importance; By ensuring access to the treatment and recovery supports that are proven effective, recovery is accelerated and the further harm related to the course of illness is minimized.
  • Stigma erodes confidence that mental disorders are real, treatable health conditions. We have allowed stigma and a now unwarranted sense of hopelessness to erect attitudinal, structural and financial barriers to effective treatment and recovery. It is time to take these barriers down.

Courtesy of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) www.nami.org

The Elementary School Tragedy – An Eerily Familiar Story

My heart bleeds for the families that have to endure the loss of their babies due to the recent massacre in Newtown, CT. I was in a toy store when my mom called me with the news, but it didn’t hit me instantly. As you see, we are a nation that has endured many senseless tragedies. From Columbine to Arizona to Colorado…we’ve seen it happen. We live. We grieve. We heal. Never completely, but with time, we do get better. It wasn’t until I sat down to eat lunch, did I fully realize the extent of what happened.

There were several conflicting reports about the shooter, the number of casualties and exactly what happened. But, there was one thing that was certain. There are mothers who unknowingly kissed their babies goodbye for the last time. There are fathers whose promises to their sons about the weekend’s activities that will go unfulfilled. There is most likely an older sibling that is grieving even more, because the last words at breakfast were something like, “I hate having a little brother/sister!” And sadly, there are gifts under the Christmas trees, that will never be opened by the intended sweet angel.

As I ate my lunch in a public place and perused social media, it became real and then suddenly surreal. I began to think, <em>”That could have been one of my babies….I could have been on the other end of the phone conversation hearing those God-awful words…This could have have been me.”</em> Uncontrollably, I began to sob – to the point that a concerned patron came over and asked if everything was ok. I told her why I was so upset. She said she hadn’t heard the news and immediately, we began to pray. There we were, a stranger and myself off in the corner of a popular restaurant at lunchtime, posturing and clasping arms and hands as if we were old friends or family. At that moment in time, we were family.

Anticipated but always caught off guard, I cringe when I have to answer my children’s inevitable questions about things like this, except for: “God knows what he’s doing…we often times don’t.Yes, this is extremely sad, but God will take care of everyone during this time. The best thing we can do is to just pray.” As parents, we sometimes worry about our kids hurting themselves or being hurt by others, but it is quite unimaginable for us to fathom that we would ever have to lay our children to rest. Sometimes there are sacrificial lambs that God uses to bring us closer to Him, to those we love and those we need to love more…before our own personal tragedies.

 

Newtown, CT tragedy

Such a dreadfully familiar scenario, as a country, we are once again clasping virtual hands and mourning  together as we grieve this loss of such precious little lives. May we continue to pray for those that lost loved ones in this tragedy. This truly makes me want to squeeze my cherubs even tighter, kiss their faces and tell them incessantly how much I love them. We need to make sure that they know – not just today, but everyday.

Being Smart and Prepared for a Hurricane

I thought once I left the South, I would only be braving the snow, but as Hurricane Sandy’s impending doom is anticipated along the entire Eastern seaboard, I am getting my family prepared for the worst. I found a few tips on ready.gov and I want to share them with you. Please be smart and safe! Stock up and stay in!

Hurricane Sandy

Here are what the experts are saying to do BEFORE the hurricane:

  • Build an emergency kit (any basic necessities your family will need i.e. water, batteries, first aid kids, medicine)
  • Identify levees and dams in your area and determine whether they pose a hazard to you.
  • Make plans to secure your property:
  • Cover all of your home’s windows.
  • Be sure trees and shrubs around your home are well trimmed so they are more wind resistant.
  • Clear loose and clogged rain gutters and downspouts.
  • Plan to bring in all outdoor furniture, decorations, garbage cans and anything else that is not tied down.

DURING the hurricane, you should:

  • Listen to the radio or TV for information.
  • Secure your home, close storm shutters and secure outdoor objects or bring them indoors.
  • Turn off utilities if instructed to do so. Otherwise, turn the refrigerator thermostat to its coldest setting and keep its doors closed. Things are good if you keep the door closed for 4 hours.
  • Turn off propane tanks
  • Avoid using the phone, except for serious emergencies. Save that battery!
  • Stay indoors during the hurricane and away from windows and glass doors.
  • Close all interior doors – secure and brace external doors.
  • Keep curtains and blinds closed. Do not be fooled if there is a lull; it could be the eye of the storm – winds will pick up again.
  • Take refuge in a small interior room, closet or hallway on the lowest level.
  • Lie on the floor under a table or another sturdy object.

Here’s what you may need to do AFTER the hurricane:

  • Continue listening to a NOAA Weather Radio or the local news for the latest updates.
  • Stay alert for extended rainfall and subsequent flooding even after the hurricane or tropical storm has ended.
  • If you have become separated from your family, use your family communications plan or contact FEMA or the American Red Cross.
    • FEMA has established the National Emergency Family Registry and Locator System (NEFRLS), which has been developed to help reunite families who are separated during a disaster. The NEFRLS system will enable displaced individuals the ability to enter personal information into a website database so that they can be located by others during a disaster.
    • The American Red Cross also maintains a database to help you find family. Contact the local American Red Cross chapter where you are staying for information. Do not contact the chapter in the disaster area.
  • If you evacuated, return home only when officials say it is safe.
  • If you cannot return home and have immediate housing needs. Text SHELTER + your ZIP code to 43362 (4FEMA) to find the nearest shelter in your area (example: shelter 12345
  • Drive only if necessary and avoid flooded roads and washed¬ out bridges. Stay off the streets. If you must go out watch for fallen objects; downed electrical wires; and weakened walls, bridges, roads, and sidewalks.
  • Keep away from loose or dangling power lines and report them immediately to the power company.
  • Walk carefully around the outside your home and check for loose power lines, gas leaks and structural damage before entering.
  • Stay out of any building if you smell gas, floodwaters remain around the building or your home was damaged by fire and the authorities have not declared it safe.
  • Inspect your home for damage. Take pictures of damage, both of the building and its contents, for insurance purposes. If you have any doubts about safety, have your residence inspected by a qualified building inspector or structural engineer before entering.
  • Use battery-powered flashlights in the dark. Do NOT use candles. Note: The flashlight should be turned on outside before entering – the battery may produce a spark that could ignite leaking gas, if present.
  • Watch your pets closely and keep them under your direct control. Watch out for wild animals, especially poisonous snakes. Use a stick to poke through debris.
  • Avoid drinking or preparing food with tap water until you are sure it’s not contaminated.
  • Check refrigerated food for spoilage. If in doubt…throw it out!

 

I’m praying that you and your family will get through this without harm, and that we use this opportunity to have some quality family and bonding time if nothing else. Be safe!

Keeping Safe and Sassy (KISS),

Forget About Taboo – Talking to Your Kids About Diversity

Multicultural crayons

I remember walking my daughter into her pre-school class. It was the usual early morning chaos. There is a large group of the three and four year olds as the classroom teachers start to stagger in. This particular morning, I had my infant daughter with me. One little three year old boy stops playing with his blocks and looks up at me. Then looks at my two daughters–then back at me. He asks, “Why is YOUR face brown, and HER face brown and HER face brown?” I pause, in shock, and look at the teacher. Within seconds, I replied, “Because this is the way God made us.” He shrugs and proceeds to play with his blocks as if nothing happened. Meanwhile, I look down at my big girl and she is looking a bit puzzled about all of it. Then off she went to hang up her jacket.

I left her that morning thinking, “What was going through my baby girl’s mind?” “Did I answer that in the very best way I could being put on the spot like that?” As well as a host of other questions. Being a minority in our neighborhood, schools, and community is nothing new to my family. I just never know, as parent, what to say to my babies whenever things like this happen. Nor do I know what they are faced with, being that minority most of the time. My mother hen instincts always have me in protector mode, but I can’t be with them all the time. So I’m prayerful that they are not being mistreated, but they can’t help but be judged. The good thing is as [younger] children, they are still innocent, unassuming and by default color-blind.
So, what are we doing as parents to teach diversity? Are we doing our best to prep our kids at home, so that they don’t ask strangers why they have brown faces? I tend to think that my brood is exposed to a plethora of people from varying backgrounds. Actually, three of my daughter’s favorite friends are ALL born from parents of different nationalities. Amir (India), Lucas (Mexico) and Nathan (China). I love this about the community in which we live. And quite honestly, it wasn’t until a couple of years ago that my oldest was confronted about his race and called a racial slur. Once again, he didn’t see what the big deal was and completely brushed off the entire incident. It was then that I decided to be more open about people’s differences and did my best to answer all the “why’s” and “how comes”.
Being a brown girl from the South, and from a different generation than my kids, I wear the burden of my not-so-remote civil rights’ history on my mind and don’t take for granted that we live in a time an space that is different from that of our parents and grandparents. Yet, for some generations, its still the same. Generation after generation, perpetually breeding hate and prejudice–polluting our world and clogging up the flow of love from heart to heart.

I don’t buy into the “I don’t see color”. Because I do. I see it and I appreciate our differences and hope to actually learn something from each and every one of them. I’m teaching my kids the same. I’m not mad at the little boy for asking us about our brown faces. I just think its the responsibility if the parent to talk to their kids. I hope that they teach them love and tolerance as well. I’m just proud that my little chocolate drop feels good about her beautiful brown face…her thick hair…and her full lips. I tell her everyday how beautiful these things are and how much I love about her. I can tell that she’s confident. And I love it!

 

Confident brown girl

Graco SnugRide® Click Connect™ 40 Car Seat ~ Babies ‘R Us ~ Capital Region Event!

 Graco SnugRide® Click Connect™ 40 Car Seat ~ Babies ‘R Us ~ Capital Region Event!

I’ve got some exciting  news to share about an upcoming event here in The Capital Region New York that Jessie from MomVantage and I will be hostessing on Saturday October 20th! Graco, one of the most widely recognized names in baby gear, recently introduced their brand new SnugRide® Click Connect™ 40 only a few weeks ago. This is perfect since my 12 month old will be rear-facing until age 2. This is the first and only infant car seat to provide rear-facing protection for babies from birth to 2 years old.

In order to celebrate the newest addition to the Graco product line and introduce all of my local moms to its features, I will be at the Latham, NY Babies R Us on Saturday, October 20th for some fun games, raffle prizes, and discussion and  introduction to the SnugRide® Click Connect™ 40. (Hands on of course!)

 

Heres a sneak peek at the SnugRide Click Connect 40 car seat so that you can see exactly why this is such an exciting event!

 

The SnugRide® Click Connect™ 40  Moonstruck

The SnugRide® Click Connect™ 40 is the only infant car seat that provides rear-facing protection for babies from birth to 2 years old, as recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics. The infant carseat grows with babies from four pounds up to 40 pounds, so parents can keep their children rear facing longer, while making sure they stay comfortable as they grow.

 

 

Quick Facts
Price: $219.99 at Babies”R”Us
Available: Online and in stores at Babies”R”Us
Colors: Mena™ and Moonstruck™ (shown above)
Features:
♦ 4 – 40 pound weight limit— a full 2 years of use!
♦ Base adjusts with 8 recline positions for most leg room of any rear-facing car seat for baby comfort
♦ The Simply Safe Adjust™ harness systems allows parents to adjust the harness and headrest with just one hand to fit their baby’s height as their baby grows, all without having to rethread the harness for extra convenience.
♦ Click Connect™ attachment which allows parents to easily transition their babies from the car seat to the stroller through a simple, but secure, one-step “click.”
♦ Adheres to the American Academy of Pediatrics recommendation.

 

I’m super excited to be hostessing this event with Jessie from Momvantage! Please join us for prizes, gifts, and giveaways GALORE!! By attending this event, you are entered to win the following: a free SnugRide carseat of your very own AND an all-inclusive trip to the Bloggy Boot Camp stop of your choice in 2013.  {Airfare, hotel, and conference registration will all be covered.}

Where: 221 Wade Road Extension Latham, NY

When: Saturday October 20, 2012 @ 1 & 2:30 pm

Not in the Capital Region? Check your local Babies ‘R Us for an event just like this one!